You’re 24 years old with a degree, a career and a car that doesn’t make any wacky sounds. You’ve become an adult young champion, and I’m proud of you. As men there comes a point in our lives where “dinner and a movie” just doesn’t cut it anymore. It isn’t appealing when you want to impress a woman and really show a her a good time. No matter what your interests are or what type of man you may be, at some point you’re going to want to get cleaned up to the 9’s and go out and paint the city red. No matter the demographic or tendency of the couple this is guaranteed to happen, so you must be prepared. My father always says “Stay ready so you don’t have to get ready”, so let me do my part. This is a blueprint on having a great night on the town.
Find or have a nice place in mind for the night. You should be well versed in nice places in your own city, so this shouldn’t be too difficult. Even if you aren’t, use the tools that are available to you. Word of mouth, social media and APPS. Apps have saved my life when planning in several situations. Look at your home city as if you’re a tourist and want to have one spectacular night. Groupon, TripAdvisor and Yelp are all really helpful. Check out a few spots, survey the ambiance, scenery, food and drink and make your decision accordingly.
This is an important part of the process. After researching apply newly acquired knowledge to the plan in order to prosper. The restaurant or lounge you plan to attend is only a piece of the puzzle. Nights like this are layered dates and should consist of at least three things:
1. Food and Drink
2. Enjoyable Activity
2. Intimate Time
They don’t have to be in order, but they have to take place. Really put yourself in a position to have a good time. Eat and drink good and enjoy each other. An enjoyable activity could be anything that two people would like. Waterparks, amusement parks, a jazz lounge, dancing, painting, anything. It’s all about what you two like. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone either. Try new things with a new person. Show some effort, be creative and be spontaneous. And intimate time? Is not sex, yet. Walking on the beach in Miami, sitting in the park in Atlantic Station, Observatory Deck in Vegas, walking in the park. Just some time for the two of you to really vibe, talk and glow away from the world. Side note, if the date is wack, cut it short and save yourself time and money and or continue the date with another woman.
Have your shit together and show her that you are capable of leading. Lie to her about when you’re going to pick her up in order to give her a window to get ready and you a window to be prompt. Tell her you’re picking her up at 7:15 and be prepared for 7:45/8:00. Make sure you’re car is clean and you smell good (read about that HERE). Know where you’re going without GPS, know where to park, know the menu, know what you want WITHOUT EVEN LOOKING and most importantly, know what
SHElikes. Have an idea of what she would like to eat and or do, combine it with the situation and voila. You always get major style points for paying attention. Also, be prepared to order for her, some women enjoy that. When she sees how well versed you are, she may ask “Do you bring all your dates here?” I don’t care if you’ve taken 1.7 million women there, the answer is NO. Just say “This is a place that I enjoy and I wanted to share the experience with you.” Simple. Under no circumstances should you take a woman to a spot where you’ve taken several other women because waitresses will pick up on you and TIP THEM OFF. Secret lady code, spooky stuff. As always, Play the situation cool, watch your surroundings and enjoy the woman.
I wish you all the best of luck. Until next time..
-Malcolm The King